OK, so obviously I am newly engaged and have been thrust into the wonderful world of wedding planning! I'm a researcher by vocation and nature, so naturally my first reaction after securing that sparkly rock on my finger was to hit the internet and subscribe to all the mushy, girly flower blogs I have been avoiding for the past 28 years of my life.
Not that I'm a tomboy- the truth is I have been dreaming of my wedding day since I was a little girl (most unoriginal statement of the blog, I promise), but I'm not a pick the dress before the man kinda lady. But seeing all the gorgeous brides with their gorgeous beaus and their gorgeous gowns, venues, shoes, flowers etc. got me pretty excited. And after speaking with my parents about the dreaded budget, I came out of the meeting relieved and even more excited because we discussed a number that seemed reasonable.
But I live in NYC. So my reasonable number is what New York Magazine calls a "medium to low budget" wedding. So. Depressing. This is a lot of money people! At least it is to me and my family. Not like need to sell-your-eggs to make the bills a lot, but still, this could be a down payment on some crappy condo in Bushwick. Did I mention I live in NYC?
Anyways, through my extensive research into possible venues in the NYC area, I found myself constantly seeking some commiseration from brides like me. Ladies who have jobs and other passions in life beyond a wedding, ladies who *HAVE* wedding budgets, ladies who want a nice wedding but don't want to dip into the down payment fund. I know you're out there, but unfortunately, we seem to get lost in the 20 ft. ivory lace train of the Ivankas of the world.
And really, I know that vendors have no incentive for us to band together! They WANT us to feel like we're the only ones with a budget. That we are not only supposed to bust our budget, but we're supposed to beat it to a bloody orange-glazed red snapper pulp, and put it on a mini puff pastry, no doubt.
So where does that leave me? Right here. On the trusty internet and speaking for all of the ladies who want a wedding, but don't want too much wedding. For everyone who believes that the wedding-industrial complex has gotten a little outta hand, and those crazy bitches on all my favorite reality TV shows don't help either!
As I said in my first post, let's get together to plan a great day, vent about how life is sometimes unfair and poke fun at the unnecessary indulgences of WTMW brides who are weak enough to succumb to the marketing forces that be and waste a whole lotta money on some really dumb crap. But, ya know, in a silly non-malicious way. Cause they'll all just say we're jealous ;)
And the truth is, no matter what our wedding budgets are, we're all incredibly blessed!
"Life is never fair, and perhaps it is a good thing for most of us that it is not."
~Oscar Wilde
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